Communicating with Filipina Women on First Dates

Routine first date tips tell you to be yourself.

Does this work? Sadly, not all the time.

Going on a first date is usually a now or never type of situation. You either do well and see her on a second date or not at all. You may want to be sharp but not arrogant; eager but not a creep; humorous but not annoying.

On top of that, you become seemingly conscious of whether you have food stuck in your teeth. If that isn’t enough, your first date jitters also get in the way.

These are just some of the many reasons why some men fail on their first dates. As such, we’re here to guide you on your journey to making a good and lasting impression.

Before you wave defeat, here are some tips to help make communicating on first dates great, especially with Filipina women.

Personality Matters a Great Deal

You may have talked with each other over the phone or perhaps had exchanged a few messages before going on your first date. Because you know at least a thing or two about each other, take their personality into consideration.

If they express themselves comfortably and talk a lot, expect them to bring on the conversation during your date. You don’t have to see them as all-knowing or reckless. They’re simply that way, so appreciate it instead.

On the contrary, if they prefer to talk less every now and then, respect it. Direct the conversation to make it meaningful and avoid an awkward atmosphere.

Learn to initiate. Don’t make them feel as if going on a first date with you is something they shouldn’t have done in the first place.

Expressing Your Interest

Filipinas are naturally conservative. They don’t make the first move often, but in cases when they do, it’s genuine.

Before they decide to go on another date with you, they need reassurance that you’re sincerely interested and not just fooling around.

Even if you’re still in the early stages of dating, don’t hesitate to show it. Keep your mind off the idea that in order to be more attractive to these women, you have to appear less interested. It won’t be helpful in this case.

Remember that making conversations worthwhile motivates them to spend more time with you.

Quality Over Quantity

You most probably think that talking too much on a first date helps you avoid uncomfortable silence. However, focusing on the quality of your interactions matters more.

Rather than blabbering about almost anything that comes to your mind, make it a task to talk about things that are worthy of both your time.

First date topics don’t always have to be grand. They just have to be relatable and interesting to both of you.

How to Keep the Conversation Going

You don’t ask them out on a first date only to give one-liner responses and ask close-ended questions. Doing so puts them in an uneasy position, and it makes them want to wish they canceled at the last minute.

Below are simple ways you can make the conversation flow naturally:

1. Put away distractions.

Being preoccupied with something while trying to hold a conversation is unpleasant. It only makes the other person want to stop. It feels embarrassing not to be given attention during what should be a meaningful discussion, and it’s disrespectful.

To avoid this, don’t let your phone or any other gadget be within sight while on a date. If you feel the need to check on something, do it while your date is in the restroom so you don’t break off the conversation.

2. Be generous with polite compliments.

Honest compliments are good conversation starters, but giving sincere and wonderful remarks from time to time can also be a great way to make a person more interested in you.

The only trick here is to do it right so as not to come off needy or thoughtless. Know the proper timing when giving one to avoid being misunderstood.

3. Let each other talk.

First dates are the best time for you to talk about the things you usually write in slam books. It is when you share about yourself that you give your date a better understanding of who you are as a person.

However, it’s important that you know when to stop. Give them an equal opportunity to talk about themselves. Let them in on the conversation because they didn’t show up only to listen to you all night.

After all, sitting back and listening to them for a while helps you calm yourself if you ever feel nervous.

4. Smile and laugh.

Smiling or even laughing is an indicator that you’re enjoying the conversation with them. It encourages them to talk more and give extra attention to what you’re saying.

It bridges a few gaps in between and helps you establish friendship at this early stage of dating.

5. Listen to what they are saying.

Women know when a man isn’t paying full attention.

Listening is a sign of respect. It is a way to show you value their words and what they think matters. They like it when they’re listened to because it makes them feel appreciated.

6. Give remarks and ask questions.

Hearing someone out doesn’t always mean you’re listening. Sitting right in front of them and casually nodding but having your mind elsewhere is wrong.

Show them that you’re willingly paying attention by giving short responses about what they’re saying and asking follow-up questions after.

Giving the Right Compliments

Filipina women are just like any other women. They anticipate and appreciate polite compliments from their date.

Keep the following in mind to know how to give compliments the right way:

1. Choose the right, if not the best, timing.
2. Be honest in complimenting. Steer clear from imaginative and poetic compliments that hardly seem real.
3. Say unique words. Don’t be a predictable man by giving the most common compliments.
4. Expect nothing in return. Don’t wait for them to say thank you or to reciprocate what you’ve just said.
5. Don’t give compliments one after another or you’ll appear desperate.
6. Engage in eye contact. A compliment is much more sincere when you look into their eyes with a smile spread across your face.

Pleasing Filipina women shouldn’t be a task. As long as you’re sincere with your intentions, and you are confident and equipped with the right amount of knowledge about them and their culture, communicating on first dates will come naturally to you.